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Be patient, take heart, be strong – Condolences (I)



By Adamu Muhammad Dodo

The simple sentences to remain remarkable when bidding bye to bachelorhood are; “be patient,” when missing a companion; “take heart,” “be strong,”

The date was Friday, December 23, 2005, when I bade bye to bachelorhood for a fresh married life. The masters of wisdom, having congratulated, would admonish me to be “patient” following the would be ups and downs associated with the newly engaged institution.

Hamza Hamidu Modibbo, a friend who got married earlier, I was among the prominent groom’s friends, had confided in me how scarry the admonition turned out to be to him, saying; “Adamu Dodo, I’m sincerely scared now more than any time in the process of this wedding. Everywhere we go thanking, I’m urged to be patient that marriage isn’t a bed of roses,” I would tell him to be strong and heed to the words of wisdom should he be considered among the responsible men.

The advice to be advanced to me close to 17 years of experience in marriage, with the death of my companion, the mother of my children; “take heart,” “be strong,” after the “be patient”, while facing tough and trying time, by way of condolences registered from within the country and across the seas; sensualising the seeds of cordiality, family ties and friendship.

“Death Be Not Proud”, John Donne, one of the leading figures in the metaphysical poets group of seventeenth-century English literature, would in the opening words of his sonnet address.

I asked, is there any pride in having the loved ones separated from each other rather permanently, punching and pinching peace to pieces? Would there have been mourning and condolences? “Be patient, take heart, be strong”, flow the words. What a wall! What the world!

“Noi Adamu?” Prof Auwal Muhammad Abubakar, the Medical Director FMC Yola who by my submission, is the Chief Medical Director of the Teaching Hospital, I met in the corridor would asked, “a warti na?” interpreted to mean “are you back?” Little I did know it would be that dark Sunday, the workaholic CMD was simply on what could be considered a casual inspection.

“Yes, Sir, Thank you sir,” I responded. I was from pharmacy with my five-year old lovely daughter, Nana Aishah. She was bashful before strange faces, she responded to the CMD in silent voice no one could hear her. She told me after we left the CMD.

“Allah rene, my wife gave birth to another bouncing baby girl,” I told him.

Prof Auwal expressed delight, blessing the addition. He would see the mother with her new baby tomorrow, Monday, when she would be transferred to postnatal ward.

It was a tough one breaking the tragic news to him few hours later, after evening prayer that my wife was gone for good; transited to great beyond after having a preterm birth.

FMC Yola has done her best to keep both the baby and mother alive. However the time constraint is beyond the best rendered services. My wife would not exceed her time limit, she would have to exit, leaving the baby to exist.

I had an engagement in Bauchi state, Prof Auwal on Monday, gave me the permission to travel. My wife requested that I should also bring her daughter schooling in Bauchi, since they’re on holiday.

I left on Tuesday and returned with my first daughter, Nana Khadijah 13, on Wednesday. The lovely caring daughter assisted her mother and siblings.

Her mother was having stomachache, Nana Khadijah told me on Sunday in the morning, I must take her to the hospital. I asked her to take care of her siblings, not to make any trouble.

The first news was pleasing to her ears that her mother gave birth to a bouncing baby girl, “Alhamdulillah!” She would exclaim. “We’re now three girls and two boys,” she would say.

It was shocking to her, the latest news of her mother’s death hours after birth.

“Daddy, are the doctors merely teasing, playing expensive joke or you saw her yourself that ammy is dead?” Nana Khadijah would ask crying.

I calmed her down. Urged her to be patient, to take heart and be strong, reminding her of the supplication “Innaa Lillah Wa Innaa Ilaihirraaji’uun”; surrendering everything to our Creator, the Most Magesty and Most Merciful to show mercy. She kept reciting, hence stopped crying.

Ammy is how my children respectfully address their mother.

Halima, Da’a Duhu’s death has though brought families and friends from far and near bound in mourning and condolences, it has separated the parents from their children and the siblings from each other. It has made an orphan in the house, lonely and nostalgic.

Nana Khadijah would later lament that “so death is that mercilessly tough. Ammy’s death has apparently scattered our home. It has separated you from us and us from the little baby, our mother’s namesake. Will you still endure to stay in that house?” Nana would ask.

The house we’ve jointly made a lovely home isn’t the criminal. It’s the time that doesn’t exceed target. It’s the death. It’s a tough trial indeed that I must defeat for a reunion, I told her.

“I thought I’d be the first to go, being a man and older. We just have to be patient, strong and prayerful. Pray for Ammy and those who have answered the final call before her; pray for the entire family, the state and country and for us,” I responded.

To be continued…

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It was a moment of joy , Thanksgiving and excitement as members of the Church of Christ, Karu-Jikwoyi Congregation Celebrates Evangelist Milling Chukwumaeze who bows out after twenty-one years as minister of the congregation.

The New Preacher of the congregation, Evangelist Innocent Agu led other members to present a three million naira bank check in appreciation for the good work done by the exiting Preacher.

Speaking during the event tagged , ” Celebration of Service” Evangelist Obakemi Moses of the Church of Christ, Nyanya congregation Charged Preachers of the Lord’s Church to be Passionate about their works at all times. He reminded them that God has called them out to dedicate themselves to his service. He lauded the Church of Christ Karu-Jikwoyi for celebrating Evangelist Milling Chukwumaeze.

Evangelist Obakemi tasked the Churches to always be focus on its goals as stated in the holy scriptures.

In welcome remarks, the host Evangelist, Innocent Agu thanked his predecessor for diligently servicing the congregation in the past twenty-one years. He noted that the Church will continue to respect and love the outgoing Preacher. He gave a historic explanation of how Evangelist Milling Chukwumaeze became a member of the Lord’s Church while praising his dedication all these years.

In their Goodwill messages, Evangelist Imoh Atakpa of the Church of Christ, Kubwa and his Kagini Counterpart Evangelist Uche Onyeike tasked members of the Lord’s Church to take proper care of their Evangelists if they hope to get the best of them. They lauded Evangelist Milling Chukwumaeze for his commitment to duty, especially in the Television Evangelism activities of the Churches of Christ in Abuja and its Environs.

In his response, Evangelist Milling Chukwumaeze thanked the Church of Christ Karu-Jikwoyi for giving him the opportunity to serve in God’s vineyard and supported him throughout the last two decades on the saddle. He said though age was not on his side he was not willing to quit, but the congregation decided otherwise. Evangelist Chukwumaeze enjoined the members to be heavenly minded at all times while running the Christian race with purity and steadfastness. He prayed for the congregation to do better under his successor while enjoining everyone to support him physically and spiritually.

Highpoint of the event was the cutting of the celebration cake and general presentation of gifts by members.

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Rev Yakubu dispels Yomi’s claims of NCPC suspension of pilgrimage



….says exercise ongoing, challenges Adamawa CAN chairman on corruption allegations

The Executive Secretary of the Nigeria Christian Pilgrims Commission, Reverend Yakubu Pam, on Saturday debunked claims that the NCPC has suspended the 2022 pilgrimage.

Pam also challenged the Chairman of the Adamawa State chapter of the Christian Association of Nigeria, Bishop Steven Dami Manzo over the corruption allegations he levelled against him.

NCPC Board Chairman, Rev Yomi Kasali had recently announced the suspension of all activities related to this year’s pilgrimage to Jerusalem while Bishop Manzo had accused the NCPC executive secretary of financial misappropriation.

Reacting during a news programme on TVC on Saturday evening, the NCPC boss said as the chief accounting officer of the commission, nobody had suspended the 2022 pilgrimage.

He said there was no time that the NCPC management or Board held any meeting to take a decision to suspend this year’s pilgrimage, which had already commenced and was still ongoing.

Pam clarified that due to some logistics problems encountered in the course of the pilgrimage, the Board of the Commission met in November and resolved that the commission would not continue with the airlifting of the pilgrims from the states that had paid to Israel for the November-December exercise.

He added that discontinuing the airlifting of intending pilgrims does not amount to and should not be misconstrued as a suspension of the entire pilgrimage activities.

Pam further stated that suspending pilgrimage was a cumbersome process which the Commission could not unilaterally take a decision on as its supervisory body must inform the President through the office of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation and the National Assembly.

He added that the Commission’s customers, which are the state governments that have paid and the private tour operators could also drag NCPC to court if it decided to take any decision to suspend the pilgrimage.

Pam said, “Because of the logistics problems we faced, we said we should not continue with airlifting, not suspending pilgrimage activities. Suspension means that everything is locked down.

“Before you make a statement on anything suspension, you must write our supervisory body and tell them that we’re suspending activities. You’ll also have to, which is through the office of the SGF, to inform Mr President that everything in the commission is suspended. You must also write the National Assembly and our customers because they have the right to take us to court as a lot of them have paid us to travel.

“But when we say airlifting is suspended, it means other activities are going on and what are other activities? Today, we have over 12 states that have already paid to travel and we’re conducting what we call screening to make sure we have those who are certified to travel, by health, and those that we feel may not abscond. This is what is going on and is part of the pilgrimage activities and just within three weeks or two weeks ago, we have more than four states that have already paid.

“And we have private sector tour organisations which registered with us and they have the licence to carry people to Israel and bring them back but through us because we also screen them and we are in charge of the visas. Until we write the authorities and Government of Israel to give them visas, they will not have visas. And right now as I’m talking, we have over a hundred of them in Israel. So, if there is suspension of pilgrimage activities, why are people in Israel? Why are people in Jordan?”

Pam also said there was no controversy about the N1.5millon paid by intending pilgrims, adding that the commission held a meeting with its private customers and the states in September where the fee was agreed upon.

“As I said, about 12 states have already paid. We start with that first before you go into procurement and then you award the contract to the contractors that will carry the people by the airlines and then the ground handlers who are there in Israel,” he said.

On the corruption allegations leveled against him by the Adamawa State CAN chairman, the NCPC boss said anyone with any proof of graft against should present his evidence to the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission and the Office of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation, which is the supervisory body rather than making wild and unfounded allegations in the media.

“I’m here as the chief accounting officer of the commission to say that there is no suspension of pilgrimage anywhere. If somebody mentions corruption at NCPC, there is a way you can bring it up – bring evidence of the money and whatever it is, there is EFCC or you can take it to those who supervise us. You can come to the media level corruption allegations,” Pam said.

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WAYSS2022: U.S Secretary Envoy on Trade, Patricia Yakubu to deliver keynote address




The U.S Secretary Envoy on Trade Amb. Patricia Yakubu has been announced as the keynote speaker at the West African Youths and Students Summit (WAYSS2022) scheduled to hold in Niamey of Niger 🇳🇪 Republic. In a release by the Secretary-General, Amb Mohammed Ahmed Marafa, the theme of the summit is ‘Empowering the West African Young Population for Sustainable Development’

The summit is the flagship annual event of the West African Youth Congress that brings together young people on the subregion and diaspora to deliberate on the crucial issues affecting the common future of young people. WAYC convenes the largest youths and students gathering on the subregion under the banner of West Africa Youths & Students Summit (WAYSS).

The Summit will commence on December 15, 2022 and among some prominent speakers are Head of UN Human Rights Commission Niger 🇳🇪 Republic, Amb. Dr. Omer Kebiwou KALAMEU, Ambassador of the Islamic Republic of Pakistan to Niger Republic, His Excellency M. Ahmed Ali Sirohey, and CEO Hon. Ikechukwu Ezeugwu Foundation of Nigeria.

Others are Ambassador of Nigeria to Niger Republic, Minister of Youth and Sports of The Gambia, Hon. Bakary Y. Badji, The Minister of Youth and Sports of Niger Republic Sekou Doro Adamou, Dr. Samuel C. Avemaria Utulu of the American University of Nigeria and Hon. Mohammed Mayas a seasoned politician and Academician among others.

Highpoints of the summit will include Panel and Interactive sessions.

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